Arising From the Ashes of Credit Card Debt

SillyCatMy new bedroom furniture arrived today.  While new furniture is generally a happy occasion for most people, for me it is especially exciting because I was able to finance it over a two-year period at Zero Percent Interest!

I suppose some background information is in order.  From the early 1980s to early 2000s, I relied heavily on credit cards in order to raise my three kids and maintain my home.  We didn’t live extravagantly, but it just seemed that someone always needed shoes, someone needed medical care, or the house needed some kind of repair.  And, of course, there was additional stuff like parts falling off cars or tires needing replacement.  We were living paycheck to paycheck, and that credit was just so easy to get – I think at one point I had almost every major credit card on the market.

Somehow I managed to meet the minimum monthly payments each month – until the federal government, in its wisdom, changed the minimum payment requirements in 2008.  Suddenly, the minimum payments on each card doubled or tripled – two of my cards had previously carried minimum payments of $100 a month, and each of them jumped to $450-$500 a month (which was pretty much the total monthly payments I had been making prior to the change, and I had been struggling with that).

Well, as they say, push came to shove.  I tried desperately to work with my creditors.  Chase accommodated me easily and put me on a 5-year repayment plan at a monthly payment I could afford.

BOABank of America, however, was a whole different story.  I literally begged Bank of America to help me.  I even got an attorney I knew to go on a conference call between me and the Bank of America representative.  I suggested that if Bank of America were to agree to extend the repayment plan to 10 years instead of 5, I could manage to pay the debt in full.  Instead, Bank of America urged me to apply through them for a THIRD mortgage on my house (no thanks – I had already taken out a second mortgage in an attempt to ease my credit card burden).

On one memorable call, I told the customer service rep that I had X amount of money with which I could make the payment that month.  The rep took my bank account information so as to apply the payment (whew!).  But then the rep told me, “Ok, now you only owe another [X amount] to meet this month’s payment.  When can we expect that?”  (Hellooooo, didn’t I just tell her that was ALL the money I had left that month?)

To make a long story shorter, I wound up doing two things:  (1) I complained to the Office of the Comptroller of the Treasury about Bank of America’s tactics, and (2) I ultimately was forced to file for Chapter 7 bankruptcy (I couldn’t even qualify for a Chapter 13 because my debts were too high).

By refusing to work with me, Bank of America wound up getting zip/nada/zero on the outstanding balance on that card.  Wasn’t that a good business decision?!

Which brings me to today’s post.

BankruptcyFilingsBankruptcy is embarrassing and time- and paper-intensive, but in my case totally necessary.  When my monthly payments jumped from a total of $400 a month to something like $1,800 a month, there was just no way I could meet them and still pay my mortgage and keep my kids fed and clothed.

After emerging from bankruptcy, I enjoyed paying cash for everything.  There’s something uplifting about pulling large dollar bills from my purse to pay for a purchase while everyone else in line is trying to find a credit card with some balance left on it.

Of course, the downside is that major expenses, such as household appliances and the new roof, must also be paid in cash.  But somehow we managed over the next couple of years.  Six months out of bankruptcy, I was even able to lease a brand new car because I had an existing relationship with Ford Credit and had never missed a car payment even while going through the bankruptcy.

New cars make me feel special, but there were times I still felt a need to re-establish myself as a worthy credit risk.  Sometimes things come up (like vet bills) that require access to funds that you simply don’t have at the moment.

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I tried a number of times, unsuccessfully, to reapply for credit.  Sure, I could have gotten one of those cards with a 39% interest rate and an annual fee of $100 or so, but I didn’t want that.  I felt it was better to wait until I could obtain credit like everyone else.  I diligently made every mortgage payment (both of them), the utility payments, the car payment, etc., and I routinely put any extra money into a newly established savings account.  Every six months or so, I would apply for a major credit card, and every six months or so I would be rejected.

Three years out of bankruptcy, I found I needed a new bedroom dresser because the drawers in the one I owned had given way, making the dresser totally unusable.  I began shopping for economical dressers I could afford.  As I was perusing the website of a local furniture store, I saw an ad to apply for their store credit, and I thought, “Oh what the hell – I’ll give it another shot.”

I applied, and almost immediately, was accepted!  WTF?!  It was especially exciting because it turned out the credit is actually offered through a major national bank, not by the local store itself.

So I went to the store expecting to buy a small dresser at something like 27.99% interest (which I intended to pay off immediately to avoid actually accruing that interest).  I figured it was a good way to help rebuild my credit rating.

When the saleslady mentioned the store was running a no-interest-for-two-years special, I actually laughed.  No way would I qualify.  But I did – guess my credit has improved just enough over the last three years!

PhoenixAnd so, I received my new bedroom furniture today, and I’m basically paying cash for it but just extending the payment out over two years.  Is that cool or what?

I’m feeling almost human again, financially speaking. 

How about you? Did you ever struggle with credit card debt, and what did you do about it?

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Hell Hath No Fury …. (Guest Post by Cordelia’s Mom)

Oliver C. Damon was kind enough to let me take over his site again:

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Spam-Bam Thank You Ma’am (September 2014)

SpamSushiThe spammers are getting bolder and smarter.  One of them actually managed to fool me into thinking a comment was legitimate – until he/she entered an identical comment on a different post several days later.

And they’re becoming more prolific – according to the Askimet stats, I received 4,147 spam comments last month, as opposed to 155 legitimate (ham) comments.  I fail to see what the spammers hope to accomplish – I’m the only blogger I know who actually reads the spam comments that make it to my comments filter, and of course, I delete 99% of them.  The other 1% become my monthly targets.

And it’s that time of the month again – on your mark, get set, go:

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Comment:

“Very good! I think the same.”

Response:

I think not.

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Comment:

“It’s nearly impossible to find experienced people on this subject, however, you sound like you know what you’re talking about!”

Resonse:

Well, since you wrote this on one of my Spam-Bam posts, I guess I do know what I’m talking about.

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Comment:

“This post is priceless. Where can I find out more?”

Response:

This comment was written on the very first post I ever wrote on this blog.  Therefore, you have a whole year’s worth of posts to catch up on – start reading and stop spamming!

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Comment:

RubieSue“Fine way of describing, and nice post to take information about my presentation topic, which i am going to convey in college.”

Response:

This also was written on one of my Spam-Bam posts.  All I can say is, I didn’t know they had college courses in spamming.

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Comment (Excerpt)

“If you’ve got made your mind to buy new sofa for your family area then here I am providing you some tips on the way to get bet sofa for your room.”

Response:

*Gasp*  How did you know Puppy Cody ate part of my couch?

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Comment:

“This is the right blog for anyone who hopes to find out about this topic.  You realize so much its almost tough to argue with you (not that I actually would want to…HaHa). You definitely put a new spin on a subject that’s been discussed for a long time.  Wonderful stuff, just great!”

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Smart spammer.  It’s always best not to argue with Cordelia’s Mom.

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Comment (Excerpt):

“Greetings from Ohio! I’m bored to death at work so I decided to browse your site on my iphone during lunch break.”

Response:

Last month, you said you were bored at work in Colorado.  Guess you still haven’t found your dream job, have you?

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“Awesome post.”

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Short and sweet.  Gotta love it.

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“does white chocolate liqueur go bad.”

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I sure hope not, but I’d never keep any around long enough to find out.

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I could easily go on for another 3 pages, but I’ll save some for October lest I run out of material (not much chance of that!).

(As usual, apologies to the appropriate commenter if any of the foregoing weren’t, in fact, spam.  I realize that some comments suffer in translation, and I try to take that into account when determining what is spam and what is legitimate.)

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[Maybe] I’m Going to Kill You

MurderIn today’s post, “I’m Going to Kill You,” blogger Marilyn Armstrong poses the question:

“Under what circumstances might I commit murder — or kill someone — for any reason?”

My immediate response was:

“Normally, I would say I am not a violent person. I have trouble yelling at people, much less killing people. However, if anyone ever hurts one of my kids, there is absolutely no question that I could kill and not regret it.”

At least one other blogger agreed with me. Never mess with any mother’s child!

A little later on, however, I reconsidered the subject.  Sure, I could absolutely kill someone who has hurt my child or someone else I love – but the bigger question is: “Would I?”

There’s a huge difference between “could” and “would.”

I hope the situation never arises where I have to face that moral dilemma. Should it happen, however, I suspect that while I certainly could consider murder, something – or someone – would probably stop me.

As another blogger pondered, if you don’t catch the evil-doer in the act of causing harm, would you later be as motivated to cause harm to the evil-doer? I don’t know.  I imagine if the criminal went uncaught for, say, several weeks, by then I might have time to consider the consequences of my own choice of actions:

JuryDo I really want to go through a trial and possibly jail? Do I want my family and friends to view me as a murderer, no matter how motivated?  Would killing that person bring my child back?  Could I be content just sending the criminal to jail?  (Should I hope that another prisoner – maybe one with kids of his own – would take care of the situation for me?)

While there would be a strong urge to feel my hands around my enemy’s throat, would it really be worth the consequences?  Again, I don’t know.   Again, what I could do might not be the same as what I would do.

There are those who would view an act of reciprocal violence, done immediately against someone who has done harm, as understandable and possibly justifiable. Others view any kind of violence as inexcusable.  I’m not sure which camp I fall into, and I hope I’ll never find myself on a jury deciding the fate of some mother or father who has killed the killer of his or her child.

(I also hope that I am never on a jury where the accused is someone who has ended the suffering of a terminally ill loved one. That scenario cause me serious conflicting thoughts.)

How about you – under what circumstances could you, or would you, kill another human being? And could you forgive yourself afterwards?

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