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COMING IN OCTOBER

  • PC guest post – October 2, 2014
  • Northern lights – October 9, 2014
  • Shades of [?] – October 16, 2014
  • Snarks ‘R Us – October 23, 2014
  • The purloined post – October 30, 2014

Be sure to adjust your schedule to allow time to read me each week!

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Cordelia’s Mom reserves the right to modify the above schedule, or to insert additional posts.

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From Bridesmaid to Maid-of-Honor

freshly-bakedI am very proud to announce that Melissa Zelniker Presser (of Real Christianity) has bestowed upon me the very prestigious Freshly Baked award.

The Freshly Baked award is granted with love by non-Freshly Pressed bloggers to other deserving non-Freshly Pressed bloggers.  We know who the real bloggers are, and we are happy to spread the word to the entire blogosphere of such excellence.

I don’t believe there is any prohibition against being Freshly Pressed while displaying the Freshly Baked badge – it would be a real shame if I were Freshly Pressed (say tomorrow) and then had to delete my Freshly Baked badge (it looks so pretty in the Awards slideshow; check it out).  It will be so exciting to see both badges on my blog (but I’ll have to make a decision as to which one should be more prominent, and right now I’m leaning towards Freshly Baked).

Although there are no conditions for accepting the Freshy Baked award, I would like to nominate a  few other bloggers.  I read and love numerous blogs, many of whose writers have, in fact, been Freshly Pressed, but there are a few non-Freshly Pressed bloggers I would like to acknowledge today:

♥  My good friend, Oliver C. Damon – Chronicle of a Wayward Son, because he lets me hijack his blog whenever I need to confess the errors of my blogging ways.

♥  Ollie’s Mommy – The Life of a Non-Wife, because nothing says love like being someone’s mommy, and doing it right.

♥  Teela Hart – TeelaHart.com – a strong woman dealing with her own life situation, but nonetheless doing whatever she can to help others. Teela is currently on sabbatical and may not read this post for  awhile, but I want to send lots of love her way.  We’re all with you, Teela.

♥  Paul Curran – my esteemed guest poster who does not yet have a blog of his own.  Paul, you are already collecting award badges toward the day you open up your own blog – meanwhile, you may share mine.

To display the award badge on your own blog, simply click on the image at the head of this post and copy it over, but please link back to Melissa’s post (http://workforthecausenottheapplause.com/2014/09/26/freshly-baked-not-a-subsidiary-of-freshly-pressed/)

PS:  Just to be sure, I checked the Freshly Pressed tab prior to publishing this post – still not on there, and still boring.

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Always a Bridesmaid …

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I must say that I am pleased that WordPress has moved the Freshly Pressed tab to the sidebar of the Reader page.

It used to annoy the hell out of me when I’d open my Reader and find all those Freshly Pressed posts written by other bloggers.  My thoughts typically ran along these lines:

♦ *sigh*  Missed me AGAIN!

♦  B-O-R-I-N-G!

♦  Honestly – I can write way better than that!

♦  Who the hell picks these things anyway?

♦  Who needs Freshly Pressed, when I’ve already been Harshly Pressed!

Now that the Freshly Pressed tab is on the sidebar, I find myself totally ignoring it.  Most days, I even forget it’s there.  When I do check it these days, my normal reaction is something like:

♦  Crap – still missed me, and the ones they picked are boring.

♦  Oh well.  Let’s see who OM reblogged today – at least his picks are entertaining.

After more than a year, I have learned to accept the fact that I’m unlikely to meet whatever requirements there are for selection by the Freshly Pressed committee (if there is one).  My posts are entertaining, amusing, and sometimes heart-rending, but never, ever boring.  Obviously, not what Freshly Pressed is all about, judging by the posts presented there (with a few exceptions – the committee sometimes has off days when they actually pick good posts!).

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Now that I’ve had my say, and probably pissed off the Freshly Pressed committee, thereby assuring they’ll totally ignore me forever on (like they always have), I have an addendum to my most recent Spam-Bam Thank You Ma’am post.

This spam comment came in after this month’s edition of Spam-Bam and is too funny (and possibly too time-sensitive) to wait until next month:

COMMENT:

MurderInvestigate“An impressive share! I’ve just forwarded this onto a coworker who was conducting a litle research on this.

And he in fact ordered me breakfast due to the fact that I stumbled upon it for him… lol. So allow me to reword this…. Thank YOU for the meal!!
But yeah, tnanx for spending the timme to talk about this matter here on your web site.”

RESPONSE:

Considering that you wrote this on my “[Maybe] I’m Going to Kill You post, I would be real careful about that breakfast your co-worker is offering you, especially if he/she delivers it personally.  Someone “conducting a litle research” on the subject definitely makes me nervous.  If you suddenly drop out of the spammer lineup, I’ll know why.

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Thanks for reading, everyone!  Lots of great posts coming up in October, so y’all come back now, ya hear?

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Arising From the Ashes of Credit Card Debt

SillyCatMy new bedroom furniture arrived today.  While new furniture is generally a happy occasion for most people, for me it is especially exciting because I was able to finance it over a two-year period at Zero Percent Interest!

I suppose some background information is in order.  From the early 1980s to early 2000s, I relied heavily on credit cards in order to raise my three kids and maintain my home.  We didn’t live extravagantly, but it just seemed that someone always needed shoes, someone needed medical care, or the house needed some kind of repair.  And, of course, there was additional stuff like parts falling off cars or tires needing replacement.  We were living paycheck to paycheck, and that credit was just so easy to get – I think at one point I had almost every major credit card on the market.

Somehow I managed to meet the minimum monthly payments each month – until the federal government, in its wisdom, changed the minimum payment requirements in 2008.  Suddenly, the minimum payments on each card doubled or tripled – two of my cards had previously carried minimum payments of $100 a month, and each of them jumped to $450-$500 a month (which was pretty much the total monthly payments I had been making prior to the change, and I had been struggling with that).

Well, as they say, push came to shove.  I tried desperately to work with my creditors.  Chase accommodated me easily and put me on a 5-year repayment plan at a monthly payment I could afford.

BOABank of America, however, was a whole different story.  I literally begged Bank of America to help me.  I even got an attorney I knew to go on a conference call between me and the Bank of America representative.  I suggested that if Bank of America were to agree to extend the repayment plan to 10 years instead of 5, I could manage to pay the debt in full.  Instead, Bank of America urged me to apply through them for a THIRD mortgage on my house (no thanks – I had already taken out a second mortgage in an attempt to ease my credit card burden).

On one memorable call, I told the customer service rep that I had X amount of money with which I could make the payment that month.  The rep took my bank account information so as to apply the payment (whew!).  But then the rep told me, “Ok, now you only owe another [X amount] to meet this month’s payment.  When can we expect that?”  (Hellooooo, didn’t I just tell her that was ALL the money I had left that month?)

To make a long story shorter, I wound up doing two things:  (1) I complained to the Office of the Comptroller of the Treasury about Bank of America’s tactics, and (2) I ultimately was forced to file for Chapter 7 bankruptcy (I couldn’t even qualify for a Chapter 13 because my debts were too high).

By refusing to work with me, Bank of America wound up getting zip/nada/zero on the outstanding balance on that card.  Wasn’t that a good business decision?!

Which brings me to today’s post.

BankruptcyFilingsBankruptcy is embarrassing and time- and paper-intensive, but in my case totally necessary.  When my monthly payments jumped from a total of $400 a month to something like $1,800 a month, there was just no way I could meet them and still pay my mortgage and keep my kids fed and clothed.

After emerging from bankruptcy, I enjoyed paying cash for everything.  There’s something uplifting about pulling large dollar bills from my purse to pay for a purchase while everyone else in line is trying to find a credit card with some balance left on it.

Of course, the downside is that major expenses, such as household appliances and the new roof, must also be paid in cash.  But somehow we managed over the next couple of years.  Six months out of bankruptcy, I was even able to lease a brand new car because I had an existing relationship with Ford Credit and had never missed a car payment even while going through the bankruptcy.

New cars make me feel special, but there were times I still felt a need to re-establish myself as a worthy credit risk.  Sometimes things come up (like vet bills) that require access to funds that you simply don’t have at the moment.

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I tried a number of times, unsuccessfully, to reapply for credit.  Sure, I could have gotten one of those cards with a 39% interest rate and an annual fee of $100 or so, but I didn’t want that.  I felt it was better to wait until I could obtain credit like everyone else.  I diligently made every mortgage payment (both of them), the utility payments, the car payment, etc., and I routinely put any extra money into a newly established savings account.  Every six months or so, I would apply for a major credit card, and every six months or so I would be rejected.

Three years out of bankruptcy, I found I needed a new bedroom dresser because the drawers in the one I owned had given way, making the dresser totally unusable.  I began shopping for economical dressers I could afford.  As I was perusing the website of a local furniture store, I saw an ad to apply for their store credit, and I thought, “Oh what the hell – I’ll give it another shot.

I applied, and almost immediately, was accepted!  WTF?!  It was especially exciting because it turned out the credit is actually offered through a major national bank, not by the local store itself.

So I went to the store expecting to buy a small dresser at something like 27.99% interest (which I intended to pay off immediately to avoid actually accruing that interest).  I figured it was a good way to help rebuild my credit rating.

When the saleslady mentioned the store was running a no-interest-for-two-years special, I actually laughed.  No way would I qualify.  But I did – guess my credit has improved just enough over the last three years!

PhoenixAnd so, I received my new bedroom furniture today, and I’m basically paying cash for it but just extending the payment out over two years.  Is that cool or what?

I’m feeling almost human again, financially speaking. 

How about you? Did you ever struggle with credit card debt, and what did you do about it?

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I love to heard from my readers.  You may comment on this post, comment on my Facebook or Twitter pages, or email me at cordeliasmom2012@yahoo.com

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Images by:  Jess, and Adam Fagen, and MyEyeSees, and Simon Cunningham/Lending Memo.com, and Prairie Kittin, respectively

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