For Better, For Worse

Photo courtesy of Suzette Benjamin

The house is empty now.

It was a good house, built in 1939 and occupied by only one family before Bertha and George moved in. It wasn’t Bertha’s and George’s first home as man and wife – they had raised their children in another town but found it necessary to relocate when that neighborhood became unsafe for older folks.

So, close to  retirement age, Bertha and George found themselves the proud owners of a brand new mortgage, as well as a number of home improvement loans that were needed to bring the “new” house into the current century.

But it was a good, safe neighborhood and they had wonderful families living on all sides of them.  It was a joy to return from work each day to such peaceful surroundings.

Finances had always been tough but they made it work.  Bertha handled most of the bills and became an expert at budgeting; she and George even managed to pay off the home improvement loans and build up some savings over the next few years.  So, when Bertha’s failing health ultimately forced her to retire and rely on only Social Security (none of their employers had ever offered 401-Ks or other retirement programs), she knew they would be able to survive.  And when George retired a couple of years after that, they were still able to scrape by.

When the country’s leadership changed and every single expense increased, the couple considered moving into an apartment.  In addition to the strain on their budget, they had found it more difficult to keep the lawn mowed and the snow removed, and hiring outside help was not within their means.  However, due to inflation and a severe shortage of available housing, apartment rents had risen to the point that the only places Bertha and George could afford would be in areas worse than the one they had moved from.

The decision was made to age in place.

The budget became tighter and tighter, but somehow they held on.  They were still able to scrape together the money for basic necessities, and life was good.  Even when the government, in its wisdom, reduced their Social Security benefits by 30%, Bertha and George managed by dipping into the savings they had worked so hard to accumulate.

But then George had a stroke and died.  Without George’s Social Security, Bertha was in dire straits and she was unwilling to seek help from her children or other family members.  After all, they had young families of their own and certainly didn’t need to start supporting Bertha.

Continuing to deplete George’s and her accumulated savings, Bertha was able to slide through for several more years.  She did, in fact, have to hire outside help for house and yard maintenance, but even so she figured she could make the money last a number of years more.  After all, did she really need more than one meal a day?

Eventually, however, the money ran out.  Bertha could no longer make the mortgage payments.  One day she received a certified mail letter from her lender notifying her that foreclosure proceedings would soon be started.  Still, she refused to ask her family for help.

What to do?

Bertha checked into income-based senior housing units but learned there was a multi-year waiting list for those apartments.  She optimistically sent in an application anyway.

At least there was a food pantry within walking distance, so she was in no danger of starvation.

Knowing she would soon be forced to move somewhere, she began to clear the house out.  Until then she had avoided going through George’s things, but now it became essential.

And that’s when she found George’s gun.

She had forgotten they even had a gun as she never felt unsafe in this “new” neighborhood.

Suddenly, Bertha realized she had a way out of her situation.  She didn’t actually have to move anywhere; she didn’t have to beg her kids for money; she didn’t have to struggle each and every day just to make it through the next 24 hours; she didn’t have to wait 4 or more years for an apartment she could afford.

Before she could talk herself out of it, she made the decision.

The house sits empty now.

The foreclosure took longer than usual because the lender had to sue an estate instead of an individual, and probate proceedings don’t progress quickly.  Once the lender became the owner of the foreclosed property, they were unable to sell it because of the sad vibes it contained and which many potential buyers could feel.  It didn’t help that once having foreclosed, the lender shut off the utilities and did no maintenance or upkeep other than mowing the lawn occasionally and keeping the sidewalks and driveway cleared of snow.  It also didn’t help that the lender insisted the asking price be kept at the outstanding balance Bertha had owed on the mortgage at the time of her death.

The house fell into neglect and became the neighborhood eyesore. No one wanted to live in it, no developers wanted to sink money into it.

At 100 years of age, the house became as dead as Bertha and George. A sad ending to a sad, but not unusual story.

As has been said many times before: it’s hell to grow old.

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I hope you all enjoyed this fictional story, which has been published in response to Dan Antoin‘s post, Thursday Doors Writing Challenge 2025, using the photo kindly contributed by Suzette Benjamin.  Jump on over to Dan’s post to view the other awesome photographs and read the incredible stories and poems based thereon by some of my fellow bloggers.

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Hoarder? Not.

Every home has one.

It’s that drawer, closet or room where excess or unused items go to die, especially those items that you don’t know what to do with but don’t want to throw away ’cause maybe someday they might come in handy.

In our case, that space was the extra upstairs bedroom that no one wanted to actually live in because it had an old disgusting linoleum floor (circa 1939) which could no longer be cleaned no matter what product was used.  After all the money we spent on household updates when we moved in nearly 8 years ago, there was never enough cash left to deal with that room – so it became our storage area.

That storage really came in handy during the pandemic, when we found it prudent to stock up on many household essentials – and what with the upcoming tariffs, it’s again somewhat prudent to stock up (but maybe not as much).

And that room was a great place to store stuff we didn’t want to put into a potentially damp basement, like all that artwork that can’t be hung until the walls are finally painted (like that’s ever going to happen – I mean it’s been nearly 8 years already!) or all that stuff we thought we’d want to keep for some odd reason (like those old VHS tapes).

But enough is enough.  There are only two of us in this house; how much extra stuff do we really need?

So now that hubby is retired and looking for ways to fill his days, he decided to finally clean that room out, with an eye to installing carpet over the old linoleum and perhaps turning the space into a music room or man cave.  Everything had to come out.

How did we ever manage to get so much crap into one room – and why did we?

Most of the truly worthless items were hauled away by a junk dealer.  About half of the remaining items (yeah, that stuff we just couldn’t get rid of) wound up in the basement anyway – and good luck trying to maneuver down there now.  Finally, the day before the carpet install,  everything else had to come down into the first-floor living area (as shown in the above photo).

Now the carpet is done, and everything that came down must go back up.  Somehow, I don’t think that room is going to look all that much better than it did before, except that all that junk will be sitting on brand new flooring.  Since hubby’s been in charge of this little project all along, I’ll leave it to him to figure out how to get everything back in there and still make the room look somewhat presentable.

Gotta love retired old guys and their projects, right?

Hugs, all.

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Spoke Too Soon, Again …

Good to know.  Sometimes I wonder, and it’s so nice to have a survey robot acknowledge this.

But enough snark.

Once again, my human-ness shows in my errors.  I was so optimistic in my last post when I talked about my new Medicare Advantage plan.  But, of course, I was wrong again.

My out-of-pocket cost for my Remicade infusions every six weeks is actually $365, not $35.  That’s seriously going to hurt.  It means finally having to dip into what little savings I have, and when that runs out I will have to decide whether or not to continue the treatment.  My doctor assures me that discontinuing treatment would result in all my colitis symptoms returning.  Definitely not fun, but hey, I’m old and never go anywhere much anyway.

Maybe I’ll be one of the lucky ones who manage to kick the ulcerative colitis.  After all, I’ve been able to keep myself more or less symptom-free by eating lots and lots of salads.  That should be enough, right? Such optimism! What could possibly go wrong?

For those of you who are going to jump in with suggestions for programs to reduce the cost of my Remicade, let me tell you I’ve already checked everything out and it doesn’t appear that anyone cares about old white people whose Social Security income puts them just a few hundred dollars a year over the maximum limits for assistance, especially if they happen to have a small amount in the bank at the time of the application.

Once I’ve depleted everything and sold off any assets I may have, like my house and car, maybe there will be some help available.  But considering the current political climate here in the U.S., I’m not at all hopeful.  After all, so long as the people in power are able to buy designer clothes for their trophy wives and can use taxpayer funds to redecorate their current residences in a ticky-tacky manner, who cares if the rest of us suffer.

However, the good news (if there is any) if that if I’m very, very, very careful, and so long as I can continue to take those paid surveys, I should be able to just coast by for a number of years.  So, I’ll cross the medical crisis bridge when I eventually get there.

Meanwhile, life such as it is, goes on.

Puppy Cody recently had a nasty colitis bout of her own, but fortunately it only lasted about a week – and only entailed three vet visits (one of which was to the emergency clinic) and lots of cash.  She’s fine, although her diet is now limited to only her prescription dog food.  Sadly, no cookies or treats for Cody – but I think that bothers me more than it does her.

Now, if only we can find a way to keep her from eating those bunny “presents” in the back yard!  We follow her around to stop her, but she still gets a few.  We tried using a mesh muzzle, but then she only stood in the middle of the yard looking sad and refusing to do her business.

Ah, the trials of being a pet owner.  But they’re worth it, aren’t they?  Who else us loves us every day no matter what kind of mood we’re in?

Hope all is well with all of you.  Let me know how things are in your part of the world by leaving a comment below or sending me an email (cordeliasmom2012@yahoo.com).

Hugs, all.

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Still Living the Dream

The gang’s all here, still.

Mostly because I forgot (again) to cancel the automatic renewal on this site.

So, since I have to pay for another year, I guess I may as well continue to post every once in awhile.

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To  be honest,  I’ve pretty much lost my muse.  Over the many years I’ve hosted this blog, my best posts were always those written during times of angst or crisis.  Now that I’m totally retired, I no longer have those issues.

Sure, I have health issues like most other senior citizens.  And sure, I’m very, very concerned about my country’s future now that the lunatics have taken over the asylum.

 

NOTE TO MY INTERNATIONAL FRIENDS (and at the risk of being added to the Enemy List, but at least I’d be in good company):  Please don’t judge all Americans by our current greedy, corrupt, moronic leaders.  The majority of us, or at least the majority of people I know, do not agree with their policies.  I love my international readers, and I certainly don’t want to go to war with any of them.

 

Basically, life has been good since I retired.  I’m happy to say that I have not yet had to dip into my meager savings to pay the monthly bills.  Even with the increases in property taxes and utilities and food prices and … (well, you get my drift), thus far I’m able to just meet the monthly budget.

When hubby also retired, we were concerned about suddenly having to pay for our own health insurance, and whether that insurance (Medicare Advantage) would cover everything – or anything, for that matter.  We shopped carefully and met with a reputable insurance broker, and so far it seems we chose well.  Hopefully, I’m not jinxing myself by reporting that even my Remicade infusions seem to  be covered except for the $35 specialist’s co-pay.  Even I can afford $35 every six weeks.

Of course, should hubby or I need surgery or hospitalization, we may be faced with some significant bills, but we’ll cross that bridge when we get to it.

So:  financially ok; healthwise sort of ok for the moment; lifestyle wise, just hanging in there and not doing a whole lot.

Now that hubby’s retired, he’s taken over most of the heavy household stuff.  He does the laundry since I have difficulty going up and down stairs to the basement, and he nearly always takes Puppy Cody out to do her business because, hey, it’s winter and icy.  I’d fall and kill myself before I even got into the backyard.

Basically, I spend my days doing dumb stuff like web-surfing, reading and crocheting.  Most of my crochet projects are donated to a local women’s shelter, which makes me feel at least somewhat useful.  And, of course, I’m still doing those paid surveys.  In fact, I made enough money last year that I actually had to report the extra income on my tax returns.  Not that it’s a lot of extra income, but it does keep me in books and crochet yarn.  I haven’t had to pay for an Amazon order from my own funds since I started taking those surveys, and it fills up the days nicely.

How’s it by all of you?  Catch up with me by commenting below (or emailing me, if that is your preference).  I promise to respond.

Hugs, all.

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