Along the lower right side of this page, you will see thumbnail images of the blogs that I follow. There are less of those than ones that follow me. Why is that? Doesn’t blogging etiquette require that you follow every blogger that follows you? I don’t agree with that.
If you’re one of my followers and don’t see your image on my blog, please don’t hate me. Like most of you, I work a full-time job and have family obligations once I arrive home. I also need time to write all those wonderful blog posts everyone enjoys. Therefore, my reading time is very limited, and I like to use some of it for reading actual *gasp* books (fewer and fewer of us are doing that these days).
I pretty much only follow blogs that appeal to me for whatever reason. I tend to like blogs that are similar to mine – honestly written, sometimes humorous, sometimes heart-wrenching. I tend to avoid blogs whose sole purpose appears to be telling me how to write or market my blog (with the exception of Harsh Realty – Opinionated Man may be out only for the numbers, or so he says, but he really does write honestly and humorously).
In addition, the WordPress theme I use only allows me to list 50 blogs that I follow, so I need to be selective. There are a bunch of blogs I read without having become a follower. In at least one case (and I won’t tell you which blog), I really wanted to follow – but the subject matter of the blog, although side-splittingly funny, simply was inappropriate to be shown as having any connection whatever with sweet old Cordelia’s Mom.
I generally don’t censor comments, however, so if you really feel a need to be shown somewhere on Cordelia’s Mom, Still, you can always comment on one of my posts. Plus comments make me feel special, almost as if I’m a real writer.
As I add to the list of blogs I follow, at some point I will be forced to delete some in order to keep to the 50-blog limit. Again, please don’t hate me if your blog is one I delete. It won’t mean I don’t love you any more – maybe I’ve just moved away for a little while. Unless something you’ve written has really ticked me off, or bored me to tears, I will likely continue to read you and who knows, I may come crawling back some day.
I understand how hard it is to be un-followed. It has happened to me, even with my current minimal readership. In each case, I’ve tried to determine which follower has defected, but fortunately I actually have enough readers that I don’t have the entire list memorized so if one disappears from my stats, I generally can’t figure out which one it was. Unless, of course, it’s a family member – I know who you are and where you live, so don’t dare leave me!
And when a follower leaves, I usually try to figure out which post caused it and why.
Being me, I’m simply not able to accept that maybe someone has grown away from my blog, or maybe someone is simply reducing their follow list for the same reasons I occasionally have to reduce mine. I always assume I have done something bad to make a reader leave.
Was the subject matter of my last post too risqué, too bland, too grandmotherly, too sad, not politically correct? Or maybe it was the image I chose (if you don’t want your image used, don’t put it on Flickr.com under Creative Commons).
Maybe my readers just don’t love me any more! Why, why, why did you leave me? And will you ever come back? What can I do to make you come back to me?
Oh, wait, I’m getting a little off-track – must’ve been thinking about that first boyfriend so many years ago.
Here’s a question for my readers:
Is there a particular blog you think I should follow but which is not already shown on the right side of this page? Let me know by leaving a comment or emailing me, and I’ll take a look. I know what a treat it is to see your gravatar image on someone else’s blog. Imagine telling all your relatives and friends: “Woo-hoo! CookieCakes is reading my blog!”
I love to hear from my readers. You may comment on this post, comment on my Facebook page, or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.